Raise your hand if you’ve ever purchased a parenting book. Keep your hand raised if you discovered the secret to successful parenting in the book’s 150 (or so) pages of print.
Don’t worry if your hand isn’t still up — mine isn’t, either. I imagine most of us are in the same boat. We’ve all purchased book after book, hoping to find parenting advice that will make everything click and help us rock the parenting gig. Ultimately, our hopes of finding the book that will make everything clear are dashed, and we’re back to facing the reality that our kids will end up in therapy in 20 years, complaining about where we went wrong.
There is a parenting book for just about every subject — potty training, dealing with temper tantrums, raising happy children. Most of these books — like the one where you successfully potty train a toddler in 72 hours or less — sound too good to be true, but it’s hard not to give it a try, right? Just like the multi-level marketing schemes where you’re promised to secure your financial future and drive a BMW by the end of the calendar year, the allure is there. It’s tough to pass up the opportunity to become a parenting rock star.
So we buy the books. We pour through the pages, read the mostly regurgitated content, and yet again come to terms with the fact that we’ll never be on top of our game. Our kids will be in diapers until they start first grade, we’ll never get our kids to listen without raising our voices, and getting them to sleep through the night in their own beds won’t happen until college.
It’s not all for nothing, though. The good thing about all of these parenting books is that they make fabulous paper weights. As evidenced by my toddler’s scribbles in a book about raising defiant children, they make for great coloring sheets. I imagine that they’d be useful as fire starters. And, if all else fails, you can toss them in your donate pile and get a twenty-five cent tax write-off. Someone else will get the opportunity to have their hopes raised — and ultimately dashed — for the price of a candy bar.
Recently the topic of parenting books came up in a discussion my husband and I were having with another relative. I pulled out a few of the books I’ve purchased over the years. I had books on positive parenting, parenting the whole-brain child, raising a strong-willed child, raising a gifted child, and parenting a defiant child. We had a laugh over the titles, as my toddler had done at least a dozen things during the past hour to show that the book on raising strong-willed children hadn’t helped.
And then my husband made the comment, “If they really wanted to help parents, they’d make a book called How Not To Kill Your Kids.”
My husband’s comment made me think a little bit about parenting books I wish I would’ve read. Maybe none of them would make me feel like I’m winning at parenting, but they would be a lot more helpful — and realistic — than something like Potty Training Your Toddler In 3 Easy Steps. Here are a few titles that might have made for better reading:
(I’m totally gonna use Shut The Fudge Up when I write my bad mom parenting book.)
Bonus
I forgot to put the parenting books back on the shelf last week. Baby Girl ripped the page out of the book about positive discipline. Minutes after I corrected her, she used a crayon to scribble in the book about the defiant child.
What book title would you like to see?
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I see Baby Girl has inherited your sense of humor. 😂🙃
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My dad said she’s just like me 😀
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Psst. It’s surviving 😉
I like “Don’t Lick That” … goes great with the theme I see in friends’ posts about “I never thought I’d say (insert behavior that now needs to be disciplined)”
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Gah. I’ll have to touch that up later! Haha, I have a note on my phone dedicated to the things I never thought I’d say.
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I’d love to reassure you all by saying they grow out of this behavior eventually but I work at a junior high school and I caught myself yelling down the hallway recently to “Stop licking your friends!” As a 7th or 8th grader thought it’d be funny to randomly lick passers-by as if he were a dog. I then followed up with a harrowing lesson on Herpes and mono and how they last forever and there’s no cure!
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LOL!!!
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A short book … “50 No-Nos of Parenting” The book would start with one I recently wrote about: ‘Never leave your child alone in a car, hot or otherwise, and especially not for 15 hours’. And from there … perhaps: ‘Do not pick your child up by his/her hair’. Just little key tips that we all think should come naturally, and to most of us they do, but apparently some were deprived of the common-sense-gene. 🙂
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That’s just horrifying to think about, some people! 😦
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“How to turn your bathroom into an escape pod.”
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I’m not even safe in the bathroom! 😦
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Hahaha, this is great!
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“How to Potty Train Your Child in 10 Easy Years” (I suspect it will take this long based on my current attempts)
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LOL! I feel your pain! I’m doing the potty training thing now, too.
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Yup! Lucky for me NY daughter was (and still is) in daycare full time during the potty training days so they did most of the work! 😊 were still kinda working on staying dry at bedtime….a couple nights ago she had an accident and when I entered her room she was way to one side curled up and her comment was “Chandler ( our amazingly large cat) peed my bed!!!”
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Always blame it on Chandler…lol
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shoooooot, who has time to read parenting books. These are great!!
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For real — thanks! 😀
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101 Ways To Disappoint Your Toddler
Don’t Lick That is perfect by the way.
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#1 of 101: Give them the EXACT thing they asked for.
😀
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🙃🙃🙃😂😂😂😂. I tell you what, parenting is like an on going circus; at times we are laughing hard and other times we are in tear confused what to do next. Of course I started out with the “What to expect when expecting” and then came a whole line of books hoping I had the perfect kid manual laid out for me. Boy was I wrong!😂. We are still trying to figure it all out; one day at a time. 💝
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Please get publishing rights for these, ha!
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😀 I feel like I *have* to write Shut The Fudge Up.
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You DO have to write it — and I’ll buy the first copy!
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😀
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“How to Toddler-Proof Your Man Cave”
I have no kids so my entire house is a man cave. A couple of years ago my godson’s big sister (about 5 I guess she was then) and her mum came round to drop something off. Within 3 seconds the kid had tripped over the rug and crashed into the surround sound system. Fortunately it was okay 😉 So was she 🙂
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Hahaha! 😀
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I think the only parenting book anyone would ever need would have the title, However You’re Doing It You’re Doing It Wrong, but I’m also very fond of Don’t Lick That.
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“However You’re Doing It, You’re Doing It Wrong” by A. Sanctimommy.
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I really like the other commenter’s bathroom pod thingy. I still announce, “I’m going to poop. Alone.”
And when I don’t, when no one seems to be around, I’ll be on the potty and I get “Marco!” and I holler back, “Pooping!” Which would deter most people from coming to sit and talk to me, but not my kids, no.
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Hahaha! That says more about love than any greeting card ever will, really.
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LOL I never read any parenting books. Decided to wing it. Kids turned out alright thank goodness. Your books, however, I might have picked up, at least to skim through the pictures 🙂
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😀
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The DaVinci Commode: Decoding the mysteries of your bathroom’s strangest smears
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As a first time mom…I would have to say “Idiots Guide to the Baby Poop Rainbow.” We have spent I don’t know how long determining if the strange color coming out of our little guy’s butt is worrisome…*facepalm*
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Hahaha! I did the same! And I would log when he’d poop, eat, etc. maddening!
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HAHAHA !
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Don’t Like That!! Omg… Reminds me of that Futurama episode when Leela is making up a kids cartoon and one of the songs is “If It’s Alive Don’t Lick It!”
If you write a humor book, I will buy it in a hot minute!!!
A title I’d like to see would be something like, “No, You Can’t Have Cookies For Breakfast (But I MIght Have Wine).”
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Brilliant! 😂
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I would love to see ‘How to stop your children from permanently damaging each other’ and ‘how to tell your kids that you can do what you like because you are an adult, but they cannot do what they want because they are a child’
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Ooh, I love it!
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Hahaha, I need the one about sleepless nights! I swear my kids know the moment my head hits the pillow!
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Must be that special “parental torture” sixth sense they have!
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That’s hysterical! I’d love to see these out there to give to new Mom’s as gag gifts!
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Too funny! Have you read the Hurray for Gin blog? She wrote a book (also called Hurray for Gin) and it’s really funny…complete with stick figure illustrations. I think you’d appreciate it. Author’s name is Katie Kirby and it’s available on Amazon. I bought a few copies for friends after I read it.
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I haven’t read it, but I’ll definitely have to check it out. A book for this blog would be the dream!
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You can do it!
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I like the “Don’t Like That!” idea! These are fantastic!
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*lick
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Thanks! Hopefully it’ll become a reality one day 😀
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Lol @ how not to kill your kids…. I like that one! Truth, on a daily basis! Whatever u end up naming it, sign me up for a copy!
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😁😁
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Exciting way to engage us parents.
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Perfect 😉
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Very fantastic
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I single parent 6 & 8 year old girls since my wife moved 3 hours away for work. We’re now downsizing as I prepare to retire and move onto a cruising sailboat with our Great Dane. It’s a handful. I have some of those parenting books but threw some away last year cause they’re bull. We sail, write about adventure travel and travel with kids at LiveFree2SailFast.com. Please come by and say hi when you’ve got time
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Rubbish indeed! That sounds fascinating, I’ll be by soon!
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Hi, thank you so much, would love for you to check us out-
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This is great!!! If I wrote a book about parenting it would be entitled ” Bribery – A Parent’s Best Friend”, because honestly, that is the only thing that has ever worked at our house.
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Lol!! That does work in a pinch
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Hahaha that’s really funny ey
..thats parenting on another level hey
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😁
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Reblogged this on Songa Achille Writer.
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Thanks for sharing!
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Okay! Thanks too!
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I am not a parent, so maybe my opinion is unwarranted, but this is a public blog and so here I am, going to leave my comment anyway (lol). Anyway, I feel like books that label types of kids is just as limiting and hindering as parenting books of today are as a marketing scheme. I was raised by great parents. I can see as I am much older that they tried their absolute best and maybe didn’t always do their best, but they damn well tried. My mom just kind of figured it out and learned by observing other parents in the military spouse world of what to do and what not to do when raising your kid, and she also picked up on that from her mom (as I am sure I will continue the tradition if I have kids). So my point is, and rather it is a question – do these parenting books ever make you feel super self aware of everything you’re doing as a parent rather than just following your instincts (not to say you don’t follow your instincts, because I am sure you do, thus probably why you reached for a parenting book in the first place – you felt inclined to search for some help and knowledge)? Also, since the internet is full of trolls – I am not trolling, but asking my question in absolute earnest. I hope you understand me. Thank you!
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BTW I nearly choked on my coffee when I read : It’s not all for nothing, though. The good thing about all of these parenting books is that they make fabulous paper weights.
You have a great sense of humor that translates very well through the internet.
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Thank you! 😁
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They do make me second guess everything. There’s so much contradictory stuff from one book to the next. I already overthink things too much, so that doesn’t help much. I probably would have been better served to just read forums where parents talk about their experiences for certain issues I’ve had than buying books. Thank you for commenting!
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That’s interesting. This is why I like blogs. As I mentioned, I am not a parent but I learn so much about what that is through parents who blog. 😉✌️
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Hysterical! Here’s one of my blogs I wrote about parenting, https://pieces-of-me.com/2012/01/07/the-princess-and-the-pea-or-anything-else-i-try-to-feed-her-for-dinner/. I guess my book title would be Meal-time Toddler Antics or Surviving Dinner: A toddler mom’s tale. I’ll be sharing with my fellow, not-perfect moms. They will enjoy!
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Surviving Dinner, I love it! I’ll be by 😁
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shut the fudge up 😀
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Omg – it’s like we are the same person!!! Lol seriously what was the 3-day potty training person thinking when they wrote that one!!!
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Haha for real! Someone gave me that one and I was just like 🤔🤔
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Hilarious! I would read any of your books! My friend told me of a funny book titles, “I ❤️ My Little A-holes”. We should add that to our ‘must read’ list!
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Ooh I love that title! 😁
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There are not only parenting books for just about every subject, but parenting books with a variety of ideas on how to parent. In my day there was Doctor Spock. In my day the experts were the parents who brought us up. They weren’t always right, but they were mostly an influence for good in our lives. For example, mine never smacked me, I never smacked my children and they, now, do not smack theirs.
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Children fortunately or unfortunately do not come witha guarantee how to manual or handbook.
A parent wings it does their best and hopes they have done a pretty okay job.
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Don’t lick the minivan: and other things I never thought I’d say to my kids; Leanne Shirtilife (sp?) Is also good.
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I need a book on how to eat a meal without the baby waking up!
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Oh boy, I remember those days. I’d tell you that it gets better, but then they just take food from you.
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The book for dads, “Oh you think that’s a good idea, do you? Go ahead, I’m watching…”
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Haha, love it!
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Very nicely written..
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I’ve tried to read “siblings without rivalry” but haven’t had minute to read it without my kids fighting 🤦♀️
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That’s hilarious. That one wouldn’t do well at my house, either. Even though my kids are 6.5 years apart, that so does not stop the fighting.
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how do I get your books
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Hopefully I’ll publish one for real one day!
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am waiting for it
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Just found your blog, and I am so amazed with this post XD I’m going to have a baby soon and already know that most of these so called “parenting books” doesn’t help anything.. Your titles tho.. I would totally read ” Shut the Fudge Up”, it’ll be pretty helpful living in a family of potty mouths XD Nice job!!
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Stay far, far away from What To Expect While Expecting! Oh my goodness, that book made me a nervous basket case.
Thanks! 😀
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XD I heard a looot about this one, and nobody seems to like it or recomend.
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Not a parent yet, but I’m looking forward to it when I’m older. Most likely a few years after I graduate. I have a lot of experience after taking care of my younger siblings. I’d still definitely read “How Not To Kill Your Kids” lol. My siblings definitely make me feel like I need that book. I guess I’d be fine if I did end up pregnant. After all, my mom was pregnant with me in high school. Unlike my classmates, I turned out fine. At the very least I know better than to eat Tide Pods. Maybe they should read a book called, “Don’t Eat That!!!” Lol
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Haha! Don’t eat Tide pods, tablespoons of cinnamon, drink gallons of milk…I’m sure there are some other challenges I’m missing.
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I don’t really pay much attention to my peers but I do know about a few of them. Mainly from my parents but still. They’re very stupid lol
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We went through an exceptionally, enjoyable child rearing . We decided before they were 2, that we would go through the Terrific Twos. After that, it was a skate. We liked the kids so much it was difficult for us to do anything without them. . . until they were late teens and early 20’s. Then I wish I had a real heavy book on disappointment that I could throw at them real hard.
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Hahaha, that’s hilarious!
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